Quite often I will receive an email from someone asking for advice on how they can stay positive when their friends and family members are so negative all of the time. This can be quite devastating to maintaining your own positive vibes and so I’d like to give you two tips that I use to remain positive even when there are negative people around you…
The Law of Attraction has one job and that job is to match like with like. Here’s the truth of the matter… you would not be able to have access to that negative person unless you’re practicing something that is holding you in a place that you dislike.
What I mean by this is that you’ve been practicing thinking about their negative aspects and parts of their personality that you dislike. Questions like “Why can’t they be more positive?” and “They’re always so negative around me, what can I do?” is re-affirming the vibration of something you dislike. Remember, the Law of Attraction doesn’t care what you want, its job is only to match like with like. The more you complain, the more you worry and the more attention you give to the aspects of their personality that you dislike then the more you will see it.
The way to move around this is to begin focusing on the Positive Aspects of that person. What are their personality traits that you DO like? Are they funny? Do they have a soft side to them? Maybe they are really clever and you love that side to them? Whatever it is – begin focusing on those aspects of their personality and NOT the negativity that they have once shared with you.
Grab a sheet of paper right now and make a list of everything you like about them. The more you practice focusing on their positive aspects then the less you will see of their negative aspects. The Law of Attraction will not allow you to be in the same room together if you’ve practiced holding your attention on the positive aspects of that person and they are in a negative vibration. The pair of you would be magnetically repelled from one another because you are no longer in vibrational harmony with each another.
Tip #2 – Find a Thought That Feels Better
When someone with a negative attitude shoots you down, more often than not the first thing to happen is for you to respond with some form of defense. The next thing that will happen is that you will begin mental chattering about the situation. “He shouldn’t have said that to ME!” … “How dare she?” … “I wish they’d just…”. It is in this moment when your vibration is being negatively affected.
No one can actually affect your vibration except for you. In this very moment when you’re involved in mental chatter your allowing the negative comments to affect you and thus you begin talking about it. Just a little bit of this and you will begin to feel pretty miserable. The next time this situation arises and you begin the mental chatter, stop where you are and begin talking to yourself out of it.
To talk yourself out of the negativity isn’t a hard thing to do, but it just requires a little bit of time and effort. The way to do it is to find a thought that feels better than the one you currently have in your mind.
Begin by asking yourself what your current focal point is. What was the last thought you had? How do you feel right now?
Let’s use an example…
“I feel miserable because he said I was wasting my time”
Now from this starting point you must find a thought that feels just a little bit better. We’re not looking for a thought like “Everything is wonderful and I love life”, you’re looking for a thought that is real and accessible to your current situation. Maybe it would be…
“I don’t think I’m wasting my time and that is what counts”
Carry on with this game. From your new starting point of “I don’t think I’m wasting my time” try and find a thought that feels a little bit better.
“But he always says things like this to me!”
The above is a thought that may come to you. But it doesn’t actually feel better than where we just were. So in the event that this happens (and it will) you must try again and poke around in your mind for something that feels better. Before long you’ll have a mental dialog similar to…
“I feel miserable because he said I was wasting my time” STARTING POINT
“I don’t think I’m wasting my time and that is what counts” BETTER
“But he always says things like this to me!” WORSE
“I actually enjoy spending my time on self-development” BETTER
“It makes me happy and I feel like I actually know this stuff is true” BETTER
“He can have his opinion and I can have mine” BETTER
“I’m okay with his comment, that’s just a reflection of where he is at” BETTER
Your internal dialog may be much longer than this in reality, but this is just an example of how you can very quickly and easily move out of a negative moment and into a positive one.
So there you have it, two ways to remain positive! Remember the key is to take action or nothing will change for you. Give yourself some quality time and begin to move away from those negative vibrations that you’ve been allowing to keep you down.
