Christmas is traditionally a time that we spend with our loved ones. As much as you love your family and friends, it is also a time when high emotions can be flying around and arguments can brew more easily.

A couple of weeks ago I made a post giving you two tips on how you can stay positive around negative people. If you missed the post, you can read it here: Two Tips To Stay Positive Around Negative People.

I wanted to continue with that post and give you another helpful tip to help you remain aligned through any tough and difficult situations that may arise this Christmas.

Life will never work out exactly as you want it to. We can use the Law of Attraction to manipulate what enters our life but we cannot control how it happens. Surprises and so called “unwanted” things will inevitably enter your life from time to time, but this shouldn’t upset you and we shouldn’t allow those unwanted events to take control of us!

Instead there is a much better way of dealing with any difficult scenario… and that is to simply let it be exactly as it is.

By releasing any emotion that you attach to an event you will undoubtedly live a much more harmonious life and will no longer be pushing against unwanted circumstances. Instead, you’ll be working with them.

So how can you “allow” any situation to be as it is?

It’s simple but will also require a little practice. Before reacting immediately to an unwanted situation, practice the following steps:

1. Do nothing. Stop in the moment just before you’re about to react and do nothing at all. Do not wait for something to happen, nor should you immerse yourself in thoughts about the situation, but instead, do nothing.

2. Breathe deeply. As you stop just before you would normally react it is good practice to begin focusing on your breaths. This will help you to take your attention away from the situation and focus solely on your breathing.

3. Feel your breathing. Become so immersed with your breathing and feel everything that you can when you breathe deeply. Feel the air inflate your lungs. Feel your abdomen expand and retract. Feel the air enter your nostrils and flow down your throat. Become immersed in the breathing.

4. Release your thoughts. Accept that something has happened and release your thoughts. When you breathe and focus solely on your breaths you will have a much greater chance of releasing your thoughts. Continue to do this until all thoughts have dispersed from your mind and allow them to leave you, even if it’s just for a few moments.

5. Decide in the Now. Once you’re feeling very calm and totally immersed in the breathing, now is the time to decide whether any action is required. Do you need to do anything? Or is it something that is out of your control? If it’s something out of your control then you can stay in the present moment with your breathing and remain there for as long as you wish. If it’s something that requires action from you then you’re now in a much better position to make a more rational decision and will no doubt make a much better decision than if you were to react immediately without having taken this time.

The above is just a quick and easy practice to help you become more present in the present moment. When you’re so immersed in the present moment and not clouded by thoughts then your decision making is far better than if you were stuck in thought and reaction.

This is an incredible life changing way to work more harmoniously with life and it is something that I highly recommend you try.

I wish you a very Merry Christmas!