When I was first starting up my own Internet business, I would often come across posts in Internet marketing forums about how well people were doing.

It is common to see people posting about their “first $100 day” and “first $2,000 month” etc.

At the time I was reading these posts, I could feel a lot of resentment within me. I was feeling uncomfortable because they were achieving something I wanted.

Sometimes I would post up short notes like “Congratulations… keep up the great work!” when inside I actually felt like saying “Who cares!! Big WooptyDoo!”

Even after I had achieved my own first $100 day, when I read posts of other people doing it, I would still feel the same resentment and jealousy.

The truth of the matter is that if you’re feeling resentment, or feeling miserable about someone else’s success that you would like to have yourself, then you’re not a vibrational match to your desire and therefore you’re moving further away from achieving it.

I spend very little time on forums these days, however yesterday when I had some spare time to myself, I was browsing one of the marketing forums and ran into a “first $100 day” post. What I noticed was completely different to my usual offering… instead of feeling resentment for their achievement, I was genuinely happy for them that they are on their way to succeeding in their goals.

I’ve noticed this happening in other areas too and not just money related. I see it as a sign that I’ve shifted and my mentality has changed.

Being genuinely happy for someone cannot be faked. You cannot feel miserable about someone’s achievement, and then offer some positive words like “Congratulations!” and really mean it. Your vibration never lies - your vibration is what tells the truth about how you feel, even if your words don’t.

This change in attitude hasn’t been quick, but it can be done with just a little effort. Here’s some suggestions as to why I think I’ve managed to change from a lack mindset to one of abundance…

Beliefs - A belief is just a chronic thought that you’ve been thinking over and over. Changing your beliefs is as easy as changing your thoughts. Spending time being around successful people has helped me to change my own thoughts on what I think is possible and has helped me shift from a lack mindset into a positive one.

Raised Vibration - As I unveil in my Manifest a Miracle system, I have a daily routine to help me stay in a positive frame of mind which makes me feel good. When I feel good, my vibration is raised and therefore I attract more of the good stuff that I want in life.

Attention To What I Want - Instead of pushing against things that I don’t want, I allow them to be and turn my attention to what I do want to experience in life. This always reaps me positive results and yields me more of what I want. I no longer read newspapers or watch the news on television. These two acts have helped me massively to experience more abundance.

I encourage you to be honest with yourself and observe your feelings within yourself when someone achieves something you want.

How do you feel when a friend of family member…

• Gets a better job or promotion?
• Makes more money than you?
• Loses 10 pounds of weight?
• Achieves a long-term goal?

You can practice being honest with yourself right now by observing how you feel when you read about someone else’s success. A good friend of mine, Aaron Potts from Today is that Day, made a post about one of his successes with moving next to the beach to start up his own health business.

His story is wonderful and he also shares a lot of great information about how he achieved it. You can read his story by clicking here.

Head over there and observe your reaction when you read about his success. Are you genuinely happy for him, or is there something in the back of your mind feeling resentment? Know that if resentment does come up, then you’re moving further away from achieving your goals.

I can honestly say that I am truly happy for Aaron and wish him all of the very best with his new adventure in Florida!

Removing your attachment to your desires is crucial to you achieving them. I’m not perfect and have had quite a bit of difficulty in letting go of some of my money related desires.

For example… As an online business owner, I’ve found that I can get way to attached to the amount of online sales I make every day. If sales are low, then I find myself feeling miserable and down about it. And equally, when sales are up, I feel happier about things. This is a perfect example of being too attached to the outcome of a desire.

Having that strong attachment is actually hindering my desire to create more sales, since I’m unable to release the need. Needing only creates more needing. Releasing it and letting it go leaves your vibration pure and positive, allowing your desires to flow freely to you.

The more I practice releasing, the more I’m getting better with detaching from my the outcome of my desires. Here are three ways that I’ve found to be helpful in letting go…

Change Your Focus – This sounds really simple, but it really works very well! When you take your attention away from your desires and put your attention on to something that pleases you, your vibration is going to immediately rise upwards. The best method I’ve found of changing your focus is to play a game where you find a thought that feels better.

Starting from whatever you may be feeling, make it your intention to find thoughts that make you feel better. It can be about your desire, or it can be about anything else. As long as you reach for thoughts that make you feel better, that’s the trick to this game.

In my DVD, Remaining Positive When Bad Stuff Happens, I talk you through this process of finding a thought that feels better by giving you a case study example.

Feel Good – If you’ve been reading my blog for any amount of time, then you should by now realize that I emphasize a lot on feeling good. Why? Because feeling good is glorious! When you feel good, good things are attracted to you. It is that simple.

When you feel good, the attachment to the desire softens up and allows you to move your attention elsewhere. That’s exactly what you want if you find yourself clinging onto your desire with both hands.

Lighten up a little and feel good for the purpose of feeling good. Go and meditate or take a walk in the woods. Read a good book if that makes you feel good. Do anything you can to feel good.

Feeling good is what my Manifest a Miracle system is all about. If you’re looking for a solution that can consistently help you to feel good and manifest your hearts desires, then you may like to have a look at what Manifest a Miracle can offer you. I’ve included 11 feel good processes so no matter where you are or what you’re doing, there will be a process that you can do to make you feel good, now.

Become Present – Becoming present should actually be described as a feel good processes, yet I’ve made it separate because it is quite different to the feel good processes that I talk about. Becoming present isn’t something I can describe in words, you have to experience it to know it.

When you become present and take your attention away from your thoughts, your vibration instantly increases and of course, your attention is no longer on your desires. Anyone can become present in any moment they choose. Most of us are so identified with thoughts that we never realize the power that the present moment can hold.

If you want to learn more about becoming present, you can signup for my newsletter Stillness Within.

So there you have it! Three ways that you can use right now to remove your attention from your desires, so that your vibration increases and allows the desire to materialize into your physical life.

You’ve just finished watching “The Secret” for the fifth time this month… and you’re excited about the Law of Attraction and what you can manifest!

“I’m going to give this stuff a really good go. I’m going to do everything I’ve learnt and practice it for one month straight.” you say.

So off you go and begin making a list of everything you want to manifest. It feels so good making this list that you can barely wait until it all manifests into your experience!

“Why didn’t I know this before?”

You then make the decision that you’re going to visualize your desires as much as possible. You’re going to meditate twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening. You’re also going to visualize your desires whilst you’re at the office working.

To help with this, you’ve made a little affirmation … “I’m so happy now that money comes to me in increasing quantities through multiple sources on a continuous basis” … which you’ve written on a small card and put into your purse where you will see it often.

Right now, your vibration is sky high and although you don’t fully understand what a vibration is, you know you’re doing the right things. It just feels right, but you don’t understand why.

So, off you go on your day to day activities.

On day 1, you wake up and do your meditation. It feels good and you’re happy about everything, yet you’ve already notice that you didn’t feel the same as you did last night when you were making your list!

You say to yourself… “It doesn’t matter, I’m going to make this work even if it kills me! I’m going to do everything I know I should be doing to manifest stuff with the Law of Attraction. Millions of people are doing it, and so am I!”

You stick to your decision and do your visualizing whenever you remember to, and also meditate and do another visualization session in the evening.

Day 2 comes around and you’ve already skipped your morning meditation. One of the kids wasn’t feeling well this morning so you didn’t have time to do it. You stick to your visualization and meditation in the evening, but your enthusiasm for all of this has noticeably decreased.

By day 3, you’re asking questions like “so, how long does this stuff take?” … “I’ve been doing it for half a week now, and nothing has shown up. All I wanted to manifest was a few unexpected dollars!”

And as day 4 approaches, you’ve worked yourself into such a downer that you can no longer be bothered with meditation at all. You’ve been talking yourself into this miserable place all day yesterday because you haven’t seen any results yet. You’re not looking at your affirmation card in your purse anymore as its already become background noise. “Normal” life has resumed.

Maybe you’ve been in a similar position before?

Here’s where this manifestation went wrong…

• Manifesting for the point of manifesting
• Doing processes that weren’t in alignment with YOU
• Asking “where’s my stuff?”
• Giving your attention to unwanted circumstances

Manifesting for the point of manifesting – When you visualize or meditate for the sole intention of manifesting something you want, you’re including two things into your vibration. On the one hand, you’re feeling good about your manifestation and you’re enjoying seeing it in your minds eye (this of course is good), and on the other hand, you’re including the feelings of “I don’t have this yet, but I want to manifest it”.

The solution is very simple and very enjoyable. Visualize not to manifest, but to feel good. Visualize because thinking about your desire makes you feel good and not because you’re going to manifest it!

Doing processes that weren’t in alignment with YOU – Everyone is different… some people don’t enjoy meditating. Some people don’t like affirmations. By paying attention to your feelings, you should be able to determine whether something is right or not for you. When you think about the prospect of meditating every day, does it feel good, or not so good? Maybe you don’t feel anything? If it doesn’t feel good to you, then its not the right thing for you to do.

Maybe making a gratitude diary every morning would be a better process, or even producing a vision board. If you’re a painter, then paint your desires. If you’re a writer, write stories about your desires. Do what turns you on and makes you feel good, that is what will yield your desires.

Asking “where’s my stuff?” - Everyone at some point or another has done this. Me included. Whenever you ask where is your stuff, you immediately put yourself further apart from receiving it since you give your attention to not having it. Thinking about not having it, only creates more not having it.

Giving your attention to unwanted circumstances – When you give your attention to “real life”, you’re going to be giving your attention to things that please you and don’t please you. Your job is to focus your attention as much as possible on the things that do please you. By doing so, you’ll automatically become more aligned with your desires.

Follow your heart and follow your feelings. Make your decisions with your feelings and not with your mind. If it feels good, move towards it. If it feels bad, step away.

The reason I’ve written this case study post is because I’ve thought many of these thoughts before myself. I’ve been in positions where I felt I “needed” manifestations to happen, and they didn’t manifest. I’ve made tons of mistakes too and it took me a long time before I became any good at becoming a deliberate creator.

The above are just a few common problems myself and others have experienced along our journey. Hopefully you can relate to some of them and prevent them from happening again in your own manifestation journey.

The most powerful energy that I have ever experienced is love energy.

Love energy can yield incredible results when used towards your goals, instead of expressing yourself in a physical manner.

In my Manifest a Miracle book, I tell a story about a love relationship that I experienced that dramatically increased my manifestations when I was first starting out with deliberate creation.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re having a crush on someone or whether you’re seeing them as a partner, the energy you expel will be love energy (some people also call it sex energy) and it is this energy that can turn you into a manifestation magnet very quickly.

If you can sustain that love energy for a period of time, like a month or so, you will notice that within that time period, you will be attracting good people, places and circumstances automatically. That is what deliberate creation is all about… when you raise your vibration on purpose, you will attract good things and things that you have asked for.

Because love energy is so powerful and so strong, you won’t need to do much in the terms of getting your vibration into alignment, because you’ll already be at the top of the vibrational scale!

This is exactly what happened to me, without me truly realizing it at the time. I had turned myself into a manifestation magnet simply by being in love and expelling that love energy every single day. The more love I felt, the more things would go my way.

Getting yourself into this state of feeling pure love isn’t something that I’ve found you can switch on and off like a button. It can take quite some time to get into that place of pure love, and it can also take time to get out of that state.

When you’re in a position where love energy is easily accessible to you, you can begin to manipulate that energy and use it to create your desires.

For example. When I was feeling love energy, I would notice a warm burning sensation, that felt very nice, around my chest area. This feeling was the feeling that I got every single time I felt this type of energy flowing around my body. I noticed that I could actually use this energy and “call upon it” whenever I wanted to.

So, in a meditation or a visualization, I deliberately used this energy to get myself excited about my desires. One of my desires which was to manifest a new source of income, this manifestation happened within a couple of weeks and with barely any thought or effort about it on my behalf.

That manifestation most likely occurred because I was very much so in vibrational resonance with my desire. There was so little work for me to do to bring it into my experience, since I was feeling love energy every single day. And even to this day, that manifestation is one of my most beautifulest experiences I’ve been through.

For anyone reading this who is currently feeling a lot of love for their partner, a person they like, or their family, just know that you’re on the right path and the more you feel that energy every single day, the more in alignment you’re becoming.

The more alignment you get, the more manifestations show up and the better you become at being a deliberate creator.

Open your heart and feel it!

After joining my first ever spiritual mentoring group who discussed the Law of Attraction, I began to notice a wonderful pattern emerging…

Those who openly spoke about their goals to the group were getting their goals achieved. Those who did not open up and speak about what they were *trying* to manifest were not achieving much of anything… they were the people who had very little to contribute week after week.

Speaking about your goals and also speaking about what you are in the process of achieving really does have magnificent power. Not only do you get others believing in you and your goals, but you’re taking the first steps into making them tangible and bringing them into the physical.

I believe this is the same “magic” power that Napoleon Hill talks about with writing down your goals with pen and paper. In the first chapter of Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon makes it very clear that to achieve your desires, you must write them down onto paper first. It’s this first stage in making your desires tangible that is so important to the physical manifestation.

Most people dismiss this first important step because they cannot see the benefit of doing so. It’s the unseeable, untouchable, non-tangible benefits that you will most certainly receive from doing this step, not a physical benefit.

Let me give you an example of a desire that I’m working on at the moment that has become more and more real by simply speaking about it…

Earlier this year, I made the decision that I wanted to leave beautiful England and live out in Costa Rica. I visited Costa Rica last year and fell in love with the country and so, as I have no ties here in England, I set a goal to move to Costa Rica this year.

Around the time I formed this desire, I told a couple of personal friends only. As time grew on, and as I became more and more excited about the idea, I began telling more and more people about my move and even set a moving date. Within weeks of doing this, I’ve formulated a plan and attracted several wonderful contacts that will help me make this move as easy as it can be.

From being in a position where there were many uncertainties about this move, to speaking about my desires and attracting the right people I need to do it smoothly is where I have seen great benefit in being open with my desire.

Speaking your desires openly really does have a magic effect. Maybe its because others start believing in the idea too, or perhaps its just releasing the idea to the universe. I don’t know for sure, but what I do know is that those who are open about their desires and more likely to achieve them than the one’s who do not.

(For anyone interested in my Costa Rica movement… I’m leaving at the end of August this year and will be staying out there for a minimum of 3 months whilst I see whether its the place that I would like to live or not.)

If you’re looking for somewhere to express your goals and desires to make them public, feel free to let us all know what they are by posting them in a comment in this blog post.