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Attracting Through Contrast
25th September 2008
Whenever you experience an unwanted circumstance, you are sending powerful desires out to the universe. Whether you speak them out loud with your words has no affect because it is your vibration that does the asking, not your thoughts or words.
As you observe anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, in those moments you are shooting powerful requests to the universe asking for the later.
As you try to start your car and the battery fails… a desire is shooting out from you asking for a working car.
As you overspend in a month and receive a credit card statement that is very much so unwanted… a desire is shooting out from you asking for more dollars to enter your life.
Instead of seeing these unwanted circumstances as terrible and horrible to live with, you could start to see them in a different light. This contrast that you live provides you with excellent feedback as to what it is that you do not want to live. And also in those moments of experiencing something unwanted, you are sending powerful messages out to the universe.
You’re continuously asking for something that you DO want to live.
Going back a couple of years… I was going through a bad spell and got myself into a position where I had less money than the bills that I had to pay. I attracted my way out of that situation comfortably by shifting what it was that I was giving my attention to.
I find using comforting statements to take my attention away from what it is that I don’t want, works really well for me.
When I reflect on all of the moments that I considered to be really bad at the time, from where I stand today I can clearly see that all of those moments have helped me to decide and live this life experience that I now have.
The moments of being in more debt than I could afford, gave me the clarity to know that I never wanted to be in that position again. Living that contrast gave me much greater passion to live a better life.
If you observe many entrepreneurs of our time, you will also see this pattern within them too. Most came from very poor upbringings and lived very mediocre lifestyles. That contrast gave them the eyes to see what they did want from life and so they took it.
Everyone lives contrast - it’s what you do with it that really counts.
Funny you should mention the car. I was on a business trip last week, and I managed to get an early flight home on Friday.
Everything went smoothly until I got to my car and the battery was dead!
At first I tried a couple of things… neither worked. Then I decided to “test” out something I read in Robert Cialdini’s Influence book, and I went to a specific person and asked if they’d help jumpstart my car (I had cables already).
They agreed and pulled their car around. But there was a problem.
My car won’t change into neutral (to roll it back out of the parking space) without the power! For a car well designed, this is one of the areas that could be improved.
So I tell the people to go on their way, and then I wonder: “Who should I call?” (No, not Ghostbusters)
I pause, think about calling a tow truck and realize it’s probably more effort for them than anybody else to go into the garage, find my car, etc.
So I call Directory information, and ask for the airport police. They send somebody up within 10 minutes.
BUT, there’s still the issue that my car can’t be pulled back. I’m just hoping they have a hand-held battery charger.
THEY DON’T.
But within 5 minutes, the person in front of me pulls out. So I walk over to that spot, and as a car is about to pull in I wave them off and point to my car.
At first they look confused, then they smile with understanding and continue on.
The airport security person drives up, mentions how we got lucky because somebody almost took the spot… I explained that I waved the people off.
Now, here’s some details I didn’t mention:
1) A few months ago, we were at a park when somebody asked for a jumpstart. We agreed, but couldn’t even *find* the battery - even with the help of the manual. Eventually the person found somebody else to jumpstart with using our cables. Definitely a team effort.
2) Throughout the entire experience of my batter dying, I never once was feeling a victim or “Why me?” or “I wish my car was working.”
My mindset was really just focused on the present: “Here’s what’s happening. Here’s what I’m doing. Let’s see what happens.”
2) This experience forced me to find out where my batter was and how to get to it. It turns out that to get to the battery is an arduous task. It requires unscrewing six different plastic pieces, then nearly yanking off a plastic ’snap-in’ piece.
The airport security guy thought I actually broke my car when he saw me pull the piece off. Turns out, that’s normal for this car.
So aside from being present and not really stressed about this… despite having previously been looking forward to the prospect of getting home early, when I did get home I mused entertainingly to my wife:
“Well, tonight I learned where the battery in our car is!” Then I told her the story.
It’s also interesting, now that I think back, that I’m often sending thoughts of gratitude towards my car. Many times it’s so automatic, that I do it unconsciously… it just sort of happens.
Anyway, that’s a bit of a long story but I thought you’d find it interesting!
I think that it can work both ways - not having money can make you feel miserable and can make you focus on lack. Or it can inspire you to focus on acquiring more. It depends on how you respond.
Hi, Gary! I have been hoping you would post something about the current state of the economy…any thoughts? I, personally, am not fearful at all. I’ve never felt more abundant in all my life…but it would be nice to hear someone put a nice positive swing on things.